Advantages and Disadvantages of Dating Married Women

Fifteen percent of married ladies play the field.  That means 45 million American females are available for an “on the side” relationship.  What are some of the advantages and disadvantages of dating married women?

One of the first things that you will find when dating married women is that you’ll get some of the best sex in the world.  Women willing to have an affair aren’t looking for love or romance.  They want a physical outlet.  Because they are committed to the sexual, not emotional, aspects of the relationship, you will probably find this is the best sex you’ll ever have.

There is also an element of secrecy when you are dating married women that adds a certain touch of spice to the relationship.  Perhaps you will meet at a motel at lunchtime or go away for the weekend.  However you meet, there will be an element of “getting away with it” that adds a certain luster to the event.

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Further, because this relationship is about sex and the married woman you are dating is not free to really get involved with you, the relationship will not have the emotional entanglements that other types of dating relationships have.  The woman will not expect you to get involved in the details or dramas of her life.  In fact, the opposite is true.  The more you know, the more she risks being found out.  So, she is likely to keep your affair compartmentalized.

When you are dating married women, you will not have to invest a lot of money in the relationship.  Aside from the costs of a cheap motel, you will not have the normal dating expenses.  You can’t take her to a restaurant as she may be seen by someone she knows.  And, you can’t buy her gifts and jewelry because her husband would be suspicious.

One final advantage to dating married women is that single women may find you more attractive.  After all, if a married woman is willing to risk her marriage for you, you must be something special.  You’ve got the whole “alpha male” thing working for you.

Of course, there are a few disadvantages in dating married women as well. 

One is that your partner’s husband may find out about the affair.  If this happens, there are a whole range of possibilities.  He could insist that she end the affair abruptly.  She could find herself facing divorce.  And, in rare cases, husbands have been known to commit violence against their straying wives and their partners.

Another problem is that you fall in love with the woman with whom you are having the affair.  If she is not in a position to leave her husband, you may end up heartbroken.

Finally, there is the moral dimension to consider.  It is rare to see a woman for any length of time and not develop some emotional attachment to her.  If you are dating married women, you run the risk of breaking up a family.  What started as a casual affair might end up having lifelong consequences for your friend’s children.

When you meet a woman who wants to have an illicit affair, you have to consider the advantages and disadvantages to dating married women.